I’d like to talk about something which has been on my mind for the past few months. It’s something that we all struggle with quite a lot in this day and age. It’s also something which I have grown so passionate about and I hope that this post helps at least one person out there, even though this blog is very new. Making a change is all I want to do when it comes to this topic.
I know how it feels to not be able to accept yourself or love yourself or be happy with the body and the soul that we are gifted with. Today, we are surrounded by pictures of models, singers and all these people who come across as ‘perfect’ and we all wish to be more like them. That really irritates me when someone says something like that. “Oh I wish I looked like her.” Nah.
We should look at ourselves in the mirror and think “I look damn good”.
And that’s where everything gets a bit f&*@ed up.
The second we start to like what we see in the mirror, the moment we post a selfie with confidence, we get criticized. People accuse you and start thinking of you as being ‘vain’, ‘arrogant’, ‘cocky’ or ‘conceited’.
Those people can do one.
You’re only ‘vain’ if you think you’re better than someone else. You’re only ‘cocky’ if you look at someone and think “you’re ugly as shit, I’m so much better than you”. As long as you know that you’re a good, loving person, it really doesn’t matter what other people say or think. Let them talk. They’re going to anyway no matter what you do with yourself or with your life. So you might as well do whatever you want.
I’ve had enough of holding myself back because I worry about what people think.
So post that bikini picture or that up-close selfie. Post snapchat videos of you lip-syncing to a sexy song. I do that literally every weekend and I’ve grown not to care. Actually, they make me feel really good about myself.
That’s what self-love is.
It’s feeling good about yourself. It’s being comfortable in your own skin.
It’s not being up your own ass or being cocky and thinking your the best thing about. That’s so false, it annoys me. It’s simply being happy with you. And it’s ok to show it off and let people know that.
Think about it.
We have one body. We have one soul. Just one. That’s all. So you might as well love the shit out of them both.
You can be an amazing person and think you’re beautiful at the same time. It doesn’t mean you’re self-absorbed or egotistical.
And if anyone thinks that of you then you should feel sorry for them because they clearly are having a hard time accepting themselves. Maybe they’re jealous. Instead of having hate towards them, you should want to give them a hug because of their struggles.
And if you find yourself getting jealous over someone. Stop yourself, remember who you are and realise that you’re damn fine too.
That’s what 2016 is going to be for me. I entered this year newly single and I’m going to be on my Beyoncé boss ass bitch vibe. Don’t let anybody f*%@ with you! And I’m very sorry for all the swearing, but sometimes it just pops out.
I hope whoever reads this will feel a whole lot better.
And I’m going to finish this post with a few recent selfies I took at the weekend. I think we should all do this, too.
Thanks for reading!
Love yourself, bro.