Confidence – Break the barrier



You have no idea how long it takes me to build up enough courage to go ahead with something. And, to be honest, I’ve had enough with feeling this way about near enough every decision I am stuck with. I have struggled to build up the confidence to do a large number of things in my life. Some of those things I went ahead with and it turned out great. Other things I simply did not have the balls for and it didn’t happen.

It’s a war going on inside your head. You’re the only person involved. And it’s silly, really. debating with yourself. With your own mind. You overthink everything and it gets to the point where it is unhealthy. It’s 1000 times worse than it actually is.

Think of all the successful people out there. I can guarantee you that at some point in their life, at some point throughout their journey, they have struggled with confidence. With belief in themselves. With the positive attitude that they can do it.

It all comes down to what other people will think. That’s the scary part. We don’t want to be judged. At the end of the day, yeah, they will judge you. But other people will love and respect you and that will override the negative. I always say “Don’t worry about what other people think of you”. On the other shoulder, I am petrified of what people think of me. It’s a 2-way thing. And I don’t think I’m the only person having problems with this.

But if people have issues with us, then they are to be cut out of our lives. Gone and forgotten about. It’s the healthiest way to keep taking steps forward.

“A ship is safe in harbour, but that’s not what ships are for”

Yes, getting out of your comfort zone is absolutely horrifying. I’ve managed to crawl out of mine several times and it’s daunting at first, but afterwards,  you feel relieved. That first step out of your comfort zone is by far the hardest part, but after it’s done, it gets easier. Confidence is like a muscle. You have to work it out to strengthen it.

Everyday, I hope to break a little piece of that barrier by doing small things I wouldn’t normally do. Slowly break away from the cage of self-doubt, low self-esteem and zero confidence.

It’s time to stop fighting with that little bitch of a voice inside your head and start believing in yourself (cringey, I know).

But just do it

Life will be so much more enjoyable




4 thoughts on “Confidence – Break the barrier

  1. I know a few people who have struggled with confidence. The one thing I learned is a great way to build confidence in life overall is to do things you are really good at. I think once you become really good at something, you might have the confidence to try a new thing, and then become really good at that too. It’s a very long process and I feel for you. The struggle is absolutely real. But I think eventually once you start doing more and more things and become better at them, it doesn’t matter what others will think. Because you will know that you are awesome! You really are awesome, I think everyone is in their own way. You just need to discover that for yourself!!

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  2. Amazing post. Everything you have written is so true and I myself often put up barriers not because of confidence but because I am hesitant to trust people, but they have a similar process and feeling! I would love it if you checked out my blog

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