The last few years have been extremely life-changing. Especially this year. A lot has happened, a lot has changed and A LOT has been learnt. I’m definitely a different person to who I was a few years back and am very glad of how much I have grown.
I think we all learn new things every year. I’m not talking about academic bollocks, I’m talking real life lessons. We go through things, have failures, make mistakes and we learn from them all. It’s part of living and growing up.
Since it’s September already (wtf) and before we know it, it’ll be freezing and Christmas will be around the corner, I think it’s necessary to talk about everything I have learnt this year (so far).
- Happiness is THE most important thing
Feeling sad and depressed has happened a lot this year. I’ve done things that made me feel down and went through things that I wish I didn’t have to. I can’t express enough how important HAPPINESS is. If you are unhappy with something, get the hell out of the situation. I wrote about this earlier on in the year and always want to touch back on it. Your happiness MUST come first. Always.
- Don’t Settle
Don’t settle for less that what you deserve. Especially in people. Don’t waste time being in a relationship with someone that you’re only 50% into. Realise what you’re worth and what you deserve to have. If you’re not completely set on someone (or something) then don’t go for it. Always STICK TO YOUR GUT.
- Let it go
If something doesn’t work out, don’t dwell on it. They don’t want to be with you anymore, you didn’t get the university course, you realise that you’re not right for a certain career path. Let it go. Holding onto something that simply isn’t working out is the worst thing you can do. Do what’s best for you and move on with your life.
- Love Yourself
Being single for nearly a year now has it’s perks. Absolutely has it’s perks and I’ve learnt A LOT. Learning to love yourself is one of the best things you could ever do. It could take months, maybe even years to fully achieve this. I definitely haven’t fully gotten there yet, but I’m better than I used to be. Spend time alone with yourself. Take yourself out, pamper yourself, treat yourself to things, realise that it is so much better to love yourself before loving anyone else. I’m not saying become a completely arrogant twat and think you’re better than anyone else. That’s not loving yourself. I mean, look at yourself and like what you see. Feel content with it.
- Don’t Compare yourself to Other
I am definitely a victim to this struggle. Looking at other people and wishing you were them is an awful feeling. At the end of the day, you’re never going to be like them. You’re gonna be like YOU. It’s quite soul-crushing, wasting time wanting to be like someone else when the person you are is already worth the attention (cringe alert). Realising that you are just as worthy as other people is a magnificent feeling.
- Live. Don’t just exist.
I have realised the greatness of life. (cringe alert) The fact that you can do anything you want. Just being alive and going through life in a mediocre light isn’t enough for me. Just living an ordinary life isn’t what I’m here for. Getting out there and living to the fullest is something which I now understand is greatly important. Take risks, go on more adventures, make crazy memories. Anything that makes you feel grateful to be alive. Anything that makes the hairs on your arms stick up, anything that makes you go “Holy sh*t, I’m so lucky to live this life”. I simply won’t believe that I’m only born to work, pay bills and die.
- Don’t worry about what other people think
There are things which I have always wanted to do. This blog, for example. I’m really into it and want to take it as far as I can. But the thought in the back of mind that says “Sh*t, what are people gonna think of you?!” Always lingers. It took me SO long to finally build up the confidence to get this bog started. Holding back because people might judge what you do breaks you a bit. I’ve learnt that just not giving a damn is the right way to think. Don’t let other people stop you and do what YOU want/have to do. Break the barrier.
- Spread Peace
This year in particular, the violence and hatred has been absolutely ridiculous. I have never been so upset with the people on this planet. And through all this negative energy, spreading love and PEACE is needed every single day. I’ve learnt that I want to encourage this as much as I possibly can. Love will always beat hate, but spreading it around is something I believe in. Just be a good person. To everyone.
Oh. This turned out to be longer than I thought. Sorry for rambling. This year has been a huge eye-opener for me. What about you?