One of the things that REALLY gets me down and makes me panic, feel overloaded with anxiety and stress is not knowing where my life is going. Not knowing where I’m supposed to be heading or what I’m supposed to be doing. It is one of THE most difficult things I’ve have to deal with. We ALL have to deal with it.
So, we spend our entire childhood in school. We then have to make the ridiculous decision of what we want to do in our lives. Most of us head on over to college to study a subject, or a couple of subjects, that we are interested in (In the UK, anyway). That’s hard enough deciding that. THEN, after you do that, you either carry it on even further at university, or you get a job or something.
I think it’s silly how we spend about 11 years being told what to do, but then out of nowhere, WE have to decide what we want to do with the rest of our lives. I don’t even know what I’m having for lunch. There’s so much pressure on young people to make such a difficult decision.
There are so many things that I am interested in and would definitely consider getting involved with, but it’s never that simple. I’ll be 20 in June and I’ve tried a number of roads that could lead to a possible career, and not one of them has felt right yet. But lately, I have realised that it is completely ok to not know. You don’t have to do life in a certain order. Like school, college, university, work. Nah.
I have a friend who is in her early twenties, she has worked for a skincare company for some time now, but has now decided that she wants to go back to university to become a lawyer! How great is that! She doesn’t give two sh*ts that she’s only just realising this now, she’s just going for it. And it doesn’t matter what age you are or what situation you’re in. You might have a total brainwave one day and a realisation as to what you want to do with your life and you could be in your thirties or maybe even older. My mum’s friend has 3 kids and is married, went back to college to become a nurse and is now continuing her studies in her second year at uni. It’s quite inspiring and comforting.
It makes me understand that I don’t need to have it figured out. I might not have a clue! And one day it’ll come to me.
Samuel L. Jackson didn’t start his acting career until he was in his thirties
Walt Disney was told that he wasn’t creative enough
J.K. Rowling’s world-famous Harry Potter books were denied several times
Oprah was told she was “unfit” for television
Madonna lost her job at a doughnut shop for squirting jelly on customers (LOL)
It’s so inspiring and comforting to know that even some of the most successful people on the planet struggled and didn’t get to where they wanted to be straight away. And yet, they survived, they made it, they succeeded. Even if it wasn’t straight after leaving school or when they were “supposed” to.
I’m not saying don’t think about your future. DO! But don’t panic because you’re not where you want to be yet or things aren’t working out at the moment. Even if people disagree with you, as long as YOU’RE doing ok and have a good head on your shoulders, there’s nothing to worry about. Most of the time, there’s NEVER anything to worry about…