If you know me well, you’ll know that positivity and happiness is highly important in my life. I try to spread it, consume it and live it every single day. It’s vital.
And although this is the case, this doesn’t eliminate sadness from my life. It’s still there. I still get sad and experience the lowest of lows. Lows that I promise to never put myself through ever again. It’s shit. That pain in your chest from feeling down. It’s an overwhelming feeling. And unfortunately, everybody has to go through this every so often in their lives. It’s normal. It’s part of the ingredients of living.
I get that feeling quite a bit, actually, although it might not be obvious. It’s only March and I’m sure I’ve already felt it plus every other emotion thinkable, this year. Though I have had some amazing moments in my life so far, endless amounts that I can’t even keep count, sadness will always pop back in to bite me on the ass. And as I continue to go through life having more incredible moments, like always, sadness will also continue to come and go.
It could be anything. Boys, friends, family, work. Sadness can come from anywhere. When it does, it gets hard. Sometimes you really just don’t know how to move on from it. Believe me, I know. I’ve gone through it too many times.
But the thing is, you absolutely CAN keep going. You keep your head up, continue to move forwards and then one day you wake up and you’re not sad anymore. You look back on the situation and, in a way, you’re grateful that it happened as it’s helped you grow so much as a person. It was meant to happen. It was meant to be ( or not to be, in many of my cases).
For me, when sadness is let in, there are a few very important things that I focus on to get me through it:
Keep family & Friends Close
Family & friends are, at the end of the day, the most important people. Keep your loved ones as close to you as you possibly can. They are worth more than losing a job, some silly boy etc. And in hard times, they will always be there for you (cringe).
..But also, spend time alone
Every now and then, being alone with yourself is refreshing. It’s a way to breathe. Be comfortable with your mind and with this hard emotion. Understand why you’re feeling this way. After all, you’re the closest person to yourself that you’ll ever have.
Knowing who you are, even just a little bit, will help you deal with almost anything in the best possible way. You know the type of person you are, you know you are strong, you know you have felt sadness before and you know that you can overcome it. Trust yourself to keep going.
As much as you possibly can, find a way to smile and laugh. Laughing is one of the best feelings and your mind is nowhere near reality for those few moments.
Coming from a complete music-lover, listening to some amazing music is great therapy…for anything, actually. Do it.
THIS FEELING WILL PASS
You won’t feel sad forever, it will go away. And you’ll continue to go through life having wonderful highs and more lows. And that’s ok.
Being sad can be on so many levels. It can be small and not that noticeable, other times, it can rip a hole through your chest and be physically painful. If it stays for a while, that’s fine, but be aware that only you control your emotions and mind. If you purposely do things that’ll make you even MORE sad, then it’s not helping you. You have control. So let sadness come and go.