20 Things I’ve Learnt In 20 Years


I turn 20 in under 2 months.


I’ve never felt so weird about turning a new age. I am SO excited to enter a new decade, but that thought also scares the sh*t out of me.

And in my (almost) 20 years of being alive, I have learnt so much. No, not all that bullsh*t in school that we are forced to be taught. I mean, lessons in life. So much has happened in my 20 years of existence, both good and bad, and it’s highly overwhelming. I have made amazing memories with some incredible people, I achieved a good education, Learnt how to be a beauty therapist, sang in front of crowds. I’ve also had to deal with heartbreak, my parents divorcing, I struggle with anxiety & depression. My life is so mixed. And I’m STILL learning, today.

But so far, this is what I’ve learnt…

  1. Family is everything – At the end of the day, they are your family. They are yours and you are theirs. They love you no matter what or who you are.
  2. Less friends is better – I’ve gained and lost friends, however, I have realised now that having a small handful of amazing, trustworthy friends is all I’ll ever need.
  3. Love is the most important thing – Whether it’s family, friends, a partner, a passion. It all comes down to love. Always. (cringe)
  4. Being sad is normal – You’re not gonna be happy every single day. Its ok to be down sometimes.
  5. Getting hurt is inevitable – People are gonna hurt you. People are gonna break your heart.
  6. You’ll get over that boy – I’ve wasted TOO much time crying over boys, wondering how and when I’ll get over them. But I did. And that’s great! (so f**k them HAHA)
  7. I’m pretty nice
  8. You’re gonna get lost – There have been so many times where I am just lost & have no clue what path to take my life down. And that’s all part of growing up.
  9. Self-love is so important – I’ve said it a million times.
  10. Being kind goes a long way – The world needs more kind people. If you can’t find one, be one.
  11. You’re gonna change a lot – From primary school, to secondary school, to being in college, to starting to get my life together, I have changed and grown as a person so much & am still continuing to do so.
  12. Worrying is a waste of time – It kills joy, it caused anxiety, it takes away happiness. There is no reason for it.
  13. Don’t compare yourself to others – What I am still trying to work on today is not to compare to others. The way I look, the life I lead, the type of person I am. I’m learning to not compare.
  14. Forget what people think of you – Again, something I am still working on. People can say whatever they want about me. My job is to not give a f**k.
  15. Life will always have struggles – These struggles are necessary to help us grow as people.
  16. I’m actually a good human being – I’ve learnt more and more about the type of person I am & to be quite honest, I grow happier, gladder & prouder everyday because of it. I’m a good person.
  17. Always be positive – Through the struggles and the hard times, staying positive and keep your chin up can help massively.
  18. I can create something brilliant with my life – No matter where I take it, my life can be amazing and I can achieve great things.
  19. Everything actually f**king DOES happen for a reason – yes, it’s cliché and a bit cringe, but I can’t express how much I strongly believe in this.
  20. Happiness NEEDS to come first – All that matters is that I am happy.


And who knows where I’ll be in 10 years, reminiscing the last decade I have yet to enter.




4 thoughts on “20 Things I’ve Learnt In 20 Years

  1. This is actually pretty amazing, because reading this reminds me a lot of me!
    Hm, let’s see. Well, when I entered my 20th year a couple of years ago, I had this inexplicable sense of fear, as well! Couldn’t put my finger on it… I guess entering a new decade just has a profound effect on some of us. That was also around the time that I started really pinpointing a lot of my problems/emotions as anxiety & depression. It sucks for sure but just realizing it and getting better does so much good for your heart and soul (as cheesy as that sounds lol)
    Aaand I personally relate to #’s 2,4,6,8,9,10,11,12,13!!,14!!,15,17,18, & 20. Lol that’s pretty much all of them! They are all good, but it’s so crazy that I’ve had those same exact realizations!

    I can tell already that you’re a good person with a kind heart and I look forward to reading more from you! Thanks so much for posting this 🙂

    -Helene, https://angelspartaness.wordpress.com/

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