As my time as a teenager began to come to an end…and then I suddenly turned 20, spending time to simply work on myself was up there at the top of my list. I’ve been through some crappy times and I realised that I wanted to improve/better the person I was. That’s not me saying that I disliked who I was this time last year. I didn’t want to completely change. I’ve always liked the person I am, but there is always room to make yourself better and to transform into the best version of yourself that you can be.
That’s what I started doing.
I’m not saying that I’m at that place already. It’s actually really hard and I struggle a lot. There are some things on my list that I haven’t even bothered to attempt yet, but they are on there.
So, along my journey of self-improvement, I’ve come up with a handful of tips that I always think about…
Less social media
For me, social media can pretty much ruin my life. I can get so addicted. It’s so easy to spend hours scrolling through people’s lives, seeing what they do, how they spend their time and what they choose to do with the lives they have. Then, it’ll get to the point where I start comparing my life to theirs. Or I’ll literally wish to be them (or with them), And that ain’t good. I can’t get rid of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram altogether. However, I did get rid of any useless information/people that I didn’t need to have updates about. I’m also trying to spend as little time on my phone as possible.
Read more books
This year, my inner bookworm was released. No idea how that happened, but it did. Sitting down, relaxing and simply reading a book is always a good idea. It brings wisdom, knowledge and creativity. Oh, and entertainment, I suppose.
Ok, so this is the one I was telling you about. The few tips that I haven’t actually tried properly yet? Yeah, this is one of them. I try, I try and I try (I don’t). I would actually rather like to get a gym membership, it’s just a case of getting off my arse and getting one.
Have a proper skincare routine
Having good skin , to me, is a great way to feel good about yourself and to feel like you’re in a good place. Spending a few minutes every morning and night on your skin is never a bad thing. Get some decent products and take some time out to pamper your face.
Drink more water
just do it, ok? It’s so good for you.
Your bedroom, the kitchen, the living room, your desk, dressing table. When the space around you is in a neat, organised and tidy situation, you feel better about yourself. You don’t feel as BLAH.
Realise your good qualities
Always, always, always have an understanding of what’s good about you. Then after that, you can…
Recognise your flaws
…It’s shit, but it’s a good thing. Realising your flaws and the areas that aren’t necessarily your best parts is the right way forward to improving yourself. You need to know where to start. So, for example, I compare myself to others a lot, I can be lazy, little things make me depressed. Stuff like that. After that, begin to work on them/improve them.
Understand how grateful you are
Like I said, things get me down. I can feel incredibly low a lot, caused by a certain situation, normally. I read this quote, I think it might have been from Oprah. And it says “Be thankful for what you have: You’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough”.
I love that so much. Focus on what you have, instead of what you don’t. You’ll feel a to better about yourself.
Learn from your struggles
I haven’t had it the worst, but I’ve been through some shit. And, although they were shit, I learnt so much from them. These struggles in my life have evolved me and made me an all-round better human. I feel wiser, I feel stronger, I feel more capable, I feel knowledgable, I feel like if anyone else is going through the struggles that I’ve had to face (and still face, to this day), then I can give them advice and help them out. The struggles you face aren’t there for no reason.
Just be a decent human. Be nice, caring, loving, spread it everywhere, have empathy, ALWAYS have empathy, stand up for yourself and for others, be giving. Being a good human is, near enough, all about how you treat other people around you.
Honestly? This list could go on. And on. And on. There are hundreds of ways to improve yourself. All you need to do is start.